Does this kind of intimate relationship mean that we have no conflicts? Not hardly. In fact, we now know that nearly 70% of relational conflicts are not resolvable. Differences in family-of-origin and cultural rules, personality, lifestyle, or personal values often preclude a permanent resolution. But we can actually build trust and intimacy with our loved-ones depending on how we deal with conflicts.

Learning to respond to each other with appreciation, respect, and friendship is the key. Being aware of how our loved ones attempt to connect with us and how we respond can make a huge difference in how we feel about each other. Sometimes those attempts can be indirect and even negative. By being aware of the attempt to connect and choosing to respond positively can make all the difference in the quality of a relationship.

Respecting our intimates' boundaries (invisible line which defines the limits of each individual in the relationship) is essential in building trust and emotional safety. This is particularly true in sexual relationships. Knowing our own limits, clearly asserting them, and having them respected is a fundamental requirement in a healthy relationship.

Long-term relationships, whether sexual or platonic, can be an ever-growing adventure.

How we connect with others makes all the difference in the quality of our lives. Forming a secure, loving bond with another person requires a certain self-understanding and insight into our own mind as well as the ability to understand and empathize with the other person's experience. The more we know ourselves, the better we can understand others, and the more deeply we know others, the better we know ourselves.

Intimacy is the 10th of the 12 dimensions of wellness in the Wellness Inventory. See the wellness wheel below which represents the Wellness Energy System. The Wellness Inventory is a holistic assessment and life-balance program designed to help you gain personal insight into your state of physical, emotional, and spiritual wellness. The program offers guidance and tools to transform this new awareness into sustainable lifestyle change, and a renewed sense of health and wellbeing. Personally subscribe to the Wellness Inventory: www.WellPeople.com Professional licensing: Click here Wellness Inventory Certification Training: Click here